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What’s in a Name?
In the play, Romeo and Juliet, William Shakespeare has Juliet say, “What’s in a name? That which we call a rose by any other name would smell as sweet.” Of course, life is a bit more complicated than that. The truth is, our names are tied to our identities. In fact, “A name is your identity. It’s what people call you, it’s what you respond to, it’s what you understand about yourself (Scanlon).” So what happens if you dislike your name and feel that it does not reflect the “real you”? Unfortunately, this can cause problems in life. “They tend to not be as well adjusted (Hedrick).” In the article, 7 Things You Can Do if You Hate Your Name we are reminded that “Our parents choose a name without knowing the person we’ll turn into (Alison.)” If you decide that your name does not reflect your identity you may want to: “consider why you hate it; shorten it; use your middle name or nickname; go for a variation; look for an inspirational namesake; change the spelling; or choose a new name (Alison).“
My paternal grandmother did not seem to be enamored with her name at least as she got older. As she made some monumental changes in her life, she decided to change her name. Her parents named her Fannie (or Fanny) Vandyke. She was born in Strickler, Arkansas on May 8, 1910 to Marshall Vandyke and Elvira Estep. Marshall had been a Union soldier with the 57th Regiment in the Indiana Infantry during the American Civil War. He enlisted on October 21, 1861 and was discharged on November 23, 1864 because he was “wounded June 23, 1864 at the Battle of Kennesaw Mt., Georgia. His right eye was shot out.”
Marshall was 33 years older than Elvira. (He had been married before to Eliza Carilton and they had four children.) Marshall and Elvira were married in 1896 in Arkansas; Fannie was the fifth of their six children. Marshall died in 1922. Both he and Fannie’s brother Elliott Cecil were buried in the Bugscuffle cemetery, four miles from Strickler.
Sometime after Marshall died, Elvira married Robert A. Turner and the family moved to Hoffman, Oklahoma. It was here that Fannie met and married my grandfather, Donald Watkins. According to their marriage license, Fannie claimed to be 18. She was actually 15, about a month before her 16th birthday.
My dad, Billy Dean Watkins, was born April 1, 1930 to Fannie and Donald.
Shortly after my dad was born, Fannie made a momentous decision to leave her baby, her toddler, and her husband to follow her family to California and shortly thereafter began to call herself Delores Frances instead of Fannie. Anyone looking for Fannie Vandyke Watkins after my dad’s birth and the 1930 census will not find any record of her except for her mother’s obituary in 1936 where my grandmother is listed as “Fanny Watson”.
As I wrote in my blog post of January 22, 2021, ” Oklahoma was a challenging place to live in 1930. The stock market crashed in 1929 and Oklahoma was in the throes of the Great Depression made worse by falling oil prices (Donald was a laborer in the oil fields in 1930). In addition, Oklahoma was in a long-term drought leading later to the Dust Bowl. Unemployment was high and survival was difficult. Many people headed to California where they thought jobs were plentiful and life would be better (often found not to be true). Fanny’s mother, Elvira, had remarried after the death of her husband, Marshall Vandyke. In 1930, Elvira and her husband Robert Turner, along with her son Arthur Raymond (Ray), moved west to Turlock, California. In addition, another brother of Fanny’s, Claud, also moved to Turlock in 1930 after he left Panama where he was a soldier stationed at Fort Davis.”
After Delores Frances moved west, she met Elmer Clare Russell and they had a daughter, Wanda Louise, born in 1934 in Arizona. Delores and Elmer married on March 20, 1948. The application for the wedding license shows that Delores “Fannie” and Donald were divorced in 1932.
Recently, I discovered that Fannie/Delores applied for a Delayed Birth Certificate under the name Delores Frances Vandyke and witnessed by her sister, Virginia. Delores applied for this birth certificate in 1952. Since the Vandyke family lived in rural Arkansas, it is most likely that Elvira gave birth at home and no birth certificates were issued. (I also found Delayed Birth Certificates for one of Fannie’s sisters and one of her brothers.)
I met my grandmother, step-grandfather, half-aunt, and cousin once when they came to visit us. My mother corresponded some throughout the years with my dad’s mother.
“Sometimes we try to live up to our names. Sometimes we try to run away from them. But either way – and for all the options in between – your name is a crucial factor in developing your sense of self, and thus helps propel you forward on various paths of life and career. (Hedrick)”
Sources
Alison. “7 Things You Can Do If You Hate Your Name …” All Women’s Talk, https://lifestyle.allwomenstalk.com/things-you-can-do-if-you-hate-your-name/.
Hedrick, Michael. “How Our Names Shape Our Identity.” The Week, The Week, 8 Jan. 2015, https://theweek.com/articles/460056/how-names-shape-identity.
Scanlon, Kyla. “A Rose by Any Other Name: The Importance of Our Names in Shaping Identity.” Medium, The Startup, 21 Jan. 2020, https://medium.com/swlh/a-rose-by-any-other-name-the-importance-of-our-names-in-shaping-identity-3fed42b116b1.
Assumptions: the Bane of Genealogy Research
A huge mistake that I have made when conducting research is to find documentation but not saving it immediately, assuming that I can just go back and retrieve it later. Unfortunately, research is not always straight forward or obvious. When I’m involved in research, I don’t always remember how or even where I found some piece of information. I’ve then spent hours trying to locate something. Regrettably, I’ve occasionally not been able to unearth that bit of information. I’m doing much better now with organizing my research into folders on my computer (that I regularly backup) and now that I’ve been working on my tree in Ancestry, I save relevant documents promptly on my tree. (I also keep paper copies of some documentation.)
One of the main mistakes newbies to genealogy research make is to rely on other people’s trees. It’s exciting to discover new information that someone has already gathered and can point you in a direction that you were previously unaware of. Some of the research that others do is well documented and extremely helpful. Unfortunately that is not true of everyone. When I first started my research, I discovered that Stephen Watkins was in the Revolutionary War. I found that that to be very intriguing. It is absolutely true that Stephen Watkins had enlisted in the Revolutionary War and it has been authenticated that he was in several battles. However, the problem in various people’s tree is that there are several Stephen Watkins’ (father, son, nephew, cousins) as well those with this name that are not related. There were also multiple marriages. Some people just added facts to their tree without ensuring that they had the correct Stephen Watkins so information has sometimes been added willy-nilly and is associated with various Stephens without attribution. As I looked more closely it was very confusing to sort everything out.
I also had a bit of confusion concerning John Calvin Watkins. I was very confident about my great grandfather, but when I was doing research I discovered some DAR documentation that pointed the way to the correct Stephen Watkins with Stephen’s son Joseph Hanslep Watkins as his son (and the grandfather of John Calvin Watkins). Unfortunately, some of the rest of the documentation didn’t make sense. With more research I discovered that John Calvin Watkins and John Calvin Watkins were cousins (both grandsons of Joseph Hanslep Watkins and great grandsons of the same Stephen Watkins).
Another mistake I made was in thinking I knew something about a relative that I recently discovered was not true (or that there is definitely “more to the story”). I’m hoping that the 1950 census will provide some information but as of yet I cannot find the family in the census. I believe that they were living in Wichita, Kansas in 1950 but I am not absolutely sure (by 1968 they were living in Salinas, California). As a child, I “heard” that my grand-aunt and uncle on my dad’s side had two sons with muscular dystrophy. When we watched the Jerry Lewis telethon on TV we always discussed this so I think my mother thought this was accurate (though my memory may definitely be faulty). I know for sure that my grand-aunt and uncle adopted twins (a boy and a girl) born in 1955 from Berlin, Germany (so they were my age which gave us an instant connection). They visited us when we lived in Oklahoma and the girl and I were pen pals for a couple of years before we lost track of each other. She has since died. The older two sons were never mentioned. Well, to my surprise, as I was researching my grand-aunt, I discovered one of her sons who died when he was 77 (he was born in 1943). He had been in the navy, been married twice, and had several children. So far, I have not been able to connect with anyone from his family but he obviously did not have muscular dystrophy. His obituary mentions his parents but no siblings, not even the twins. My grand-aunt and uncle only have death notices, not obituaries, and no information on their children is found there.
My maternal grandmother told my mother that her oldest brother who was born in 1886, died in 1906 after he was hit in the chest with a baseball. This was family lore and we all just accepted it as truth. Recently, I met my mother’s cousin. His father was the second oldest child in the family and was born in 1888. My grandmother was the youngest of 10 children and was born in 1905. Our cousin told me that the oldest brother, Henry, contracted TB. They lived in La Crosse, Wisconsin and their doctor told them that even though there was no cure for TB, Henry would be better off in a warm, dry climate. My great grandfather worked for the railroad in Wisconsin and was able to continue working for the railroad in San Bernardino, California so the family moved there shortly after my grandmother was born. I asked our cousin if Henry had indeed died from being hit by a baseball and he said that no, he had actually died of TB. (He had never heard a story about the baseball.) I found Henry’s death notice, but no cause of death was give. So was Henry hit by a baseball? Maybe. Did he die from the baseball? Most likely not; he probably died of TB.
Don’t just assume, verify. Save all of your documentation with the source information even if the data is conflicting. Eventually, you may find that clue that ties everything together. Family stories may be totally true; they may have a kernel of truth with some embellishment; sometimes they are completely false but a good story nonetheless.
What’s a Pacifist to do?
Sometimes life is complicated. Is it possible to be both a pacifist and a patriot? This was certainly a struggle that a Quaker such as Timothy Smith had during the American Revolutionary War. As a member of the Religious Society of Friends or Quakers, Timothy made a commitment to be a pacifist. While many Quakers were loyalists, many such as Timothy were patriots. There was definite conflict between upholding pacifist principles and feeling compelled to protect and support the colony. While some patriotic Quakers chose to fight in the Revolutionary War against the beliefs of the Quaker Church (as possibly three of Timothy’s brothers did: Anthony Jr., James, and Noah), Timothy chose to honor his religion by becoming a teamster which was a non-combatant job and transport supplies to military forces. There were no major roads and traveling over land was treacherous. “On September 15, 1779, Smith joined Captain Israel Burrows’ Team Brigade, part of the Wagon Department. Burrows’ Brigade consisted of eight four-horse wagons maintained in Trenton, N.J. In 1780, Smith enlisted again for six to nine months (Stanley, Ellen E.).”
Timothy Smith was born January 25, 1747 in Monmouth, New Jersey to Anthony and Lydia Willets Smith. Timothy’s grandparents were Thomas and Mary Allen Smith and his great grandparents, Mary’s parents, were Jedediah and Elizabeth Howland Allen. Elizabeth’s parents, Henry and Mary Howland were Pilgrims.
Timothy married Sarah who was his second cousin in 1767. They had seven children; their son Micajah was my 4th great grandfather. (Timothy Smith was the father of Micajah who was the father of Rebecca who was the mother of Susannah “Susan” who married Samuel Watkins who were the parents of John Calvin Watkins, my great grandfather.) In 1790, Timothy, Sarah, and their seven children were noted in the U.S. census as living in Franklin Township, Fayette County, Pennsylvania (another family Fayette County connection). Sarah died in 1803 and five years later Timothy married Hannah Williams. Timothy died in 1822.
***I have identified three direct ancestors who were in the American Revolutionary War: Stephen Watkins, Thomas McElroy, and Timothy Smith. Stephen fought in the war, Thomas was a wagoner, and Timothy was a teamster. (Wagoner and teamster seem to be the same thing – they were part of the essential transportation component to drive the wagons, deliver goods and supplies, and care for the horses.) My next goal is to find out the Daughters of the American Revolution requirements for documentation in order to attain membership.
Sources
“Digital Magazine Archive.” D A R Members’ – Magazine Archive, https://services.dar.org/members/magazine_archive/default.cfm.
“Quakers and the Revolution.” History of American Women, 31 May 2020, https://www.womenhistoryblog.com/2009/02/quakers-and-revolution.html.
“Quakers in the American Revolution.” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 14 Mar. 2021, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Quakers_in_the_American_Revolution.
Stanley, Ellen E. “Dar: Timothy Smith by Our Patriots Dar Podcast.” Our Patriots DAR Podcast, Anchor, 6 Jan. 2022, https://anchor.fm/todaysdar/episodes/DAR-Timothy-Smith-e1ch8if.
“Memories Frozen in Time”
The end of the school year is upon us. Yearbooks are hot off the presses and it’s a chance to autograph each other’s books and relive the memories of the year. Down the road, it’s fun to look back and see how young we were and reminisce about fashion, hair styles, and events from an impressionable time in our lives.
What do Viola Watkins (1911-2000) and Dallas Cowboy quarterback Troy Aikman (1966-) have in common? They were both Henryetta Hens from Henryetta, Oklahoma. My grandaunt Viola was a freshman in 1929 and Troy Aikman was a freshman in 1981. (My dad was born in Henryetta in 1930.)
The mascot for Henryetta High School became the Hens after a “newspaper account of a game played in a downpour referred to the team as the Mud Hens. The ‘Fighting’ was added later (Students).” (In 1989 a very controversial decision was made to change the Fighting Hens to the Knights.)
Viola Watkins did not graduate from high school. On October 29, 1929 the stock market crashed and the country entered the Great Depression which lasted through 1939. Oklahoma was particularly hard hit because it was in a drought and entered the Dust Bowl era. The Watkins family struggled.
On February 2, 1930, Viola married J. Homer King in Newton, Kansas. On May 26, 1931, Viola and Homer had their first child, a daughter named Marian. They went on to have two more children, Madelyn and Max. Viola and Homer did not have a happy marriage and they divorced in 1953. Viola later married John Crichton.
Yearbooks are a time capsule and a memory book. Enjoy looking through your yearbooks and have fun exploring the yearbooks of relatives and ancestors that you can find online.
Sources
“Henryetta, Oklahoma.” Wikipedia, Wikimedia Foundation, 8 Oct. 2021, https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henryetta,_Oklahoma.
“Students Will Vote to Change Name of Mascot.” AP NEWS, Associated Press, 10 Jan. 1989, https://apnews.com/article/c41eb20bb91c44bb5c4523eedc7972ec.
“U.S., School Yearbooks, 1880-2012”; School Name: Henryetta High School; Year: 1929
“U.S., School Yearbooks, 1880-2012”; School Name: Henryetta High School; Year: 1981
“U.S., School Yearbooks, 1880-2012”; School Name: Henryetta High School; Year: 1983